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P. Jayaram
India Correspondent
Dousing out 'bride burning'
March 05, 2009 Thursday, 04:54 PM
P. Jayaram on young Indian women's fight back against the horrific practice.

IN NEW DELHI

BRITISH medical journal, The Lancet, recently confirmed what the Indians know already.

Thousands of young women, aged mostly in 15-34 age group, are killed in fires in the country every year. The "fires" refered to in the article are mostly a result of blatant domestic abuse.

"Domestic abuse is a serious problem in India. Women are sometimes killed in disputes over dowries; often in such disputes the victims are doused with gasoline and set ablaze, and their deaths are claimed as kitchen accidents," the journal said.

It put the figure of such deaths at 100,000 a year.

"Dowry Deaths" or "Bride Burning", where the daughter-in-law is doused in kerosene, set ablaze in the kitchen and the incident reported to authorities as an accident have been shamefully common in the male-dominated society.

Most of the time, the perpetrators of the crime get away due to lack of evidence. In rare cases, the victims have survived to make a dying statement accusing the in-laws for the atrocity.

Even though the Dowry Prohibition Act of 1961 makes give or take of dowry a punishable offence from minimum seven years to a life sentence, it has not acted as a deterrent in the country, where corrupt officialdom and loopholes in law have mostly favoured the offenders.

According to official data, on an average, one Indian woman commits suicide every four hours over a dowry dispute.

The National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) lists a total of 2,276 female suicides due to dowry disputes in 2006, that is six a day on an average.

Now, the Law Commission has recommended increasing the minimum sentence from 7 to 10 years in dowry death cases.

It has, however, declined the suggestion by the National Commission for Women and women’s rights groups to increase the maximum punishment from life imprisonment to death.

Marriages in India are usually arranged by parents and the young bride moves in with the in-laws soon after.

The newly wed is expected to switch her affections overnight to her husband's family and the girl's parents have limited say in her personal life after her that.

The woman often finds herself at the mercy of the new family members. Her conduct, expected to be perfect, influences their treatment of her, but it is not always reciprocrated in kind.

Strict traditional boundaries make it impossible for her to complain of ill-treatment, which is why the offenders get a free hand at ill-treatment.

In most cases, greedy in-laws start placing demands with the girl's parents for anything from an apartment to jewelery, to cars and cash.

This is in return for a "happy future" of their daughter.

Most parent's relent, those who can not meet the demands often get a phone-call informing them about their daughter's "accidental" death.

Lack of evidence usually lets the groom go scot-free, to try his luck in the marriage market again.

But, all is not lost.

A few years ago, Ms. Nisha Sharma, 23, a computer science student in Delhi cancelled her own wedding just before it was to take place and reported the groom and his family to the police for demanding dowry.

She became an instant celebrity across India.

Her photographs, sitting before unopened cartons of brand new air-conditioners, refrigerators and washing machines to be given as dowry to the groom and his family, were splashed in newspapers.

The incident brought home the evil of dowry system in the Indian society, but it also kindled hope that the new generation of women are not going to be treated as mere 'for sale' commodities with an expiry date.

Nisha’s example was followed by some other young brides too.

And if the trend catches on, that would be a different kind of blaze which will set the country on fire.

The fire of revolution.



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Total comments: 11
Savvy
August 01, 2009 Saturday

I appreciate all the comments made by all of them as they have their own perception of the given issue.Few are talking based on their experiences and few others have been through it but please try and understand there is some truth in what Mr Jayaram has to say , as there is no smoke without fire.Every women goes through a lot of torture said and unsaid in her daily life i only urge all of you to look at things in your life and women in your families and take care of them as they are the pillars of your happy family.

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Maria
April 15, 2009 Wednesday

Jesus! I have read this Article and have a real difficulty to restrain myself from just crying out. Some of the commentators above shed the light that a great number of men die and the number outreaches number of women's death. Thereby, there is no problem of violence against women and all of that is provoked by ill-educated women.

I am not Asian and might be not accustomed to Asian cultural thinking, but we are talking here about HUMAN LIVES people! Yours and mine and other thousands of women and men. And you are saying there is no problem?!
Arranged marriage is a problem per se...it is coercion of both parties (both male and female) to enter into the union without their free will. Dowry death is a problem?! No, it is not a dowry that causes problem but acceptance of people that they can be bulled into something based on the hundred years traditions. Another problem is your understanding that the human life is so cheap: one case more, one case less, who cares?!...that is exactly it, if you personally do not care and all what you argue about is statistcs, if your mind accepts that someone can be easily killed or mentally or physically abused and it is a part of the culture or tradition, it is not just worrisome, but is a syptom in itself. We cannot even talk about appeling human rights records here. It is not a category in abstractor, it is a product of our social interactions, culture, traditions and believes, our moral boundaries if you wish!

I am thankful to the author for bringing my attention to the problem...as my Western mind kept being shattered even from imagining that something similar to that can be actively ongoing in 2009!


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denise
March 17, 2009 Tuesday

I heard about bride burning for the first time on Oprah winfrey's show.It's quite alarming that such practices occur in the 21st century.I wonder why ladies refuse to speak up.Probably because they lack education and also ignorant of the fact that 'woman have the right to live.So why sit down AND FOLD MY ARMS WHEN MY LIFE IS ABOUT TO BE TAKEN IN THE NAME OF TRADITION.

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Virag
March 11, 2009 Wednesday

Highly misleading article. The reality is that Indian women are greedy most of all women and want money from all relationships be it with father or husband. P Jayaram needs to do a reality check by visiting saveindianfamily.org and wemen.us by knowing the true face of Indian women. How easily they can lie about false stories of torture.

On the other hand its the Indian men who are treated worse than animals and like FREE ATM MACHINES. Every 57000 husbands are committing suicides against 29000 wives. Yet there is no hue and cry and about that. 3400 men have burnt alive, why no one speaks about them. Why do girls always marry up? Why can't they maintain a husband, they always look for maintenance from husband?

IS the pain of a mother/sister less when she loses a son/brother?

Every year thousands of false dowry cases are filed and husbands are terrorized to settle by paying an 'extortion amount' in the name of legal terrorism. 99 % of dowry cases are false. Even the CJI and the President of India have commented on this. Yet Jayaram has the audacity to write such a bullshit article.

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pimpmaster
March 09, 2009 Monday

This is how blogs in ST should be. Thumbs up to P. Jayaram!

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